Episode 16 – Brotherhood

Jake and Brett talk about the value and importance of brotherhood. 

Episode 16

Key Points

  • We can mistakenly equate brotherhood with accountability
  • Accountability can become a shame based system
  • There is an important difference between guilt and shame…guilt is related to an action, shame is related to an identity
  • There is more to brotherhood than negative humour 
  • There’s a major difference between running for 24 hours alone and running with a brother
  • It’s impossible to be close to one hundred men
  • Vulnerability is essential in brotherhood but can be overdone
  • Brotherhood is knowing, wanting, and choosing the good for your brother
  • A basic question to ask ourselves is, “Am I in this brotherhood for him or for me?”
  • It is better to say, “I don’t know what to say,” than to try to action you do
  • Most of the time brothers don’t need advice, they need strong, consistent presence
  • Being a brother calls forth masculinity
  • Father wounds and familial brother wounds affect our relationships with other men

Discussion Questions:

  • What struck you from this episode?
  • What has brotherhood been like in your life?
  • What is one way you could be a better brother?
  • Did the Father give you the names you call yourself?