Episode 34 – Men are Called (Part 2) – Becoming the Father

Title picture for Episode 34 Part 2

Jake and Brett, joined again by their friend and ally Sean O’Brien, continue a three part series unpacking a powerful homily given by Fr. Joe Fitzgerald at the Men’s Retreat in September 2019.

Key Points

  • The second part of the homily is about the Father’s love
  • Fr. Joe shows a move clip of a commercial with a father and a son (see link below in the Resources section)
  • We can identity with both sons in the prodigal son story
  • We are called to become the Father
  • We can have false images of God the Father
  • We are all called into an ongoing conversion of heart where we see the Father as He truly is, not as we assume He is
  • Having our image and impression of God healed is a core journey of heart for men
  • We can encounter God the Father through other good men who are good fathers
  • We can invite people into what brings us joy and share that with them
  • The story of the prodigal son might be the greatest story ever told
  • A possible way to articulate the journey of Christianity is from obligation and tradition (OT) to encounter and relationship (ER)
  • Reflecting on the gaze of the Father is very good but can also be uncomfortable

Discussion Questions

  • What struck you from this episode?
  • What struck you about the TV commercial Fr. Joe referenced?
  • What is your image or picture of God the Father?
  • What do I love to do that brings me joy? How could I shared that with others?
  • What comes up for you when you consider the gaze of Father toward you?
  • How did Sean’s story about looking at his son at school impact you?
  • What might that reveal about your comfort level with intimacy with God?


  • Bouygues Christmas 2018 Video clip
  • “What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then…know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” (Luke 11:11-13)
  • “…unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven” (Matt 18:3)